In this post we’ll talk about how to prepare for a counselling session and answer some of the questions you might have. If you have any other questions that we haven’t answered here, then please do drop us a line at hello@clerestorycounselling.co.uk.
Where will your session take place?
Whether you’ve chosen video call or phone, you need a private space where you can’t be overheard. You can’t have a counselling session in a coffee shop, on a train, or an open-plan office or anywhere else where other people can hear you. You need somewhere completely private so make sure you plan ahead and find a quiet, private space.
What you need to bring
Bring a glass of water and tissues. When things get emotional having these on hand can help you regulate and re-centre.
Check your connections
If you’ve chosen a video call, make sure you have good internet connection. For phone sessions, make sure you’re somewhere with decent signal. You might want to wear headphones, both for privacy and comfort.
What time is your session?
Counselling sessions are time-bound and can’t overrun so make sure you’re clear on what time it starts. Ideally give yourself a few minutes to centre yourself and take a few deep breaths before the start time.
What do you want to talk about?
Some people write lists, others just hold it in their head – whatever works for you is fine. Don’t worry if you feel like you don’t know how to explain what’s going on for you – your counsellor’s job is to help you articulate what you’re feeling when you’re struggling to find the words.
Often people come to talk about one thing and end up talking about completely different things and that’s fine too. We’re there to support you, so if something comes up, it’s probably something you need to talk about so go wherever your head and heart take you.
After your session
People often feel lighter having shared something that’s been weighing them down. You might also feel very tired once the adrenaline leaves your system. Sometimes people feel heavier after a counselling session when the weight of what they’re carrying, and the energy it has taken to keep it under control, becomes clear. However you’re feeling, ideally take a bit of time to decompress and readjust to the world. Take a short walk, make a cup of tea, stare out of the window – whatever you need to do, just don’t rush straight back into busy-ness if you can avoid it.
It’s important to take very good care of yourself while you’re engaged in counselling. Be aware that thoughts and feelings will pop up between sessions as you process what you’ve been talking about, so make sure you’re being extra nice to yourself.
We’ve also put a handy guide together to explain what to expect from your first counselling session.